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Sunday, 25 October 2009 |
Buy fashionable shoes, take a loan on a house and save children's extra curricular activities for the next. But the time for conversation with friends we have. Do you look after yourself? What exactly does that mean?
And why so few of us can do it – explains a psychotherapist, founder of the method to build resilience to stress "About 8 times. Caring for oneself is another, already the seventh 'O' - Able to take care of oneself is difficult, because we want in life was like in the song and that someone else took care of us?
- But that whatever the program 8 times O 'meaningfully applied in your life, you must master the ability to care for themselves. Unfortunately, most of us are reluctant attitude to each other, suspicious and often aggressive. We are to ourselves too demanding, we put a very high bar, and we determine the unrealistic task. And in addition hurt themselves openly, we fall into the various addictions, and go ahead and to the world that we do only what we want and like.
- And we want to drink alcohol every evening.
- Either burn 40 cigarettes a day. We forget that if you lose moderation, what we like most, can become our greatest enemy. And what we've found the best cure for stress and insecurity, can bring more suffering than the stress and danger. So take care of ourselves is not a simple matter. Sometimes it requires fundamentally changing the habitual attitudes towards each other. Indeed, we learn to take care of themselves than those who dealt with us when most of this care wymagaliśmy. Quality of care, climate and practical shape that determine how we will deal with each other as adults. We take it as if we threw the program from one computer to another.
- So if we were not ensuring a child, we had problems with the proper nutrition, compliance with hours of sleep or exercise?
- We were in bad habits and will not seek alternatives until such time when our health is seriously threatened. We will bring for example, to burn the energy situation. This lack of this inner attitude, which we call the ability to care for themselves, is the most important reason for the increasing epidemic of burnout syndrome.
- Epidemic ... - That is heedless of self is so widespread?
- Somewhat surprisingly, it is common to treat your body and its needs as something unimportant. We believe that we are created in the so-called. higher goals, and the body is just embarrassing ballast, which hinders us in this. As a result, we treat ourselves responsible - misuse of our body. But taking care of themselves can not be reduced solely to ensure his physical condition. We should also remember to pray the other skills when seeking to cross the boundaries of our psychological capacity. I keep careful attitude to the needs and values that go beyond material success and a sense of security. Should also include maintaining good relations with important, people close to us emotionally. All this requires a completely different set of life priorities. But that is up and realize in our busy lives, it is essential to healthy, strong and efficient body. - I know people who devote time to himself awakens anger. From start to learn what they can take care of yourself?
- From a reflection on what we learned in this regard them as a child. So how to take care of them. The most important is the attitude of the requirements for the support and love. Every parent in the upbringing of these two aspects into account, but the severity behavior indicates that the majority of children, which in recent years entered into adult life, was brought up under the pressure of too high expectations. Therefore, in adult life requires too much of yourself and can not give ourselves the support and love - that is, they can not take care of themselves.
- For parents raising children are often cross-expression of love.
- There is nothing wrong with wanting a child to be taught, developed talents. AEven if you are the only recreation, such as tennis or playing the guitar. Child needs to ponudzić, because only then start your creative potential. Parents should not only care about their education, but also to play with him, fool around, to show sensitivity and concern. It is therefore worth considering whether our parents hugging us, playing ball with us and cooked the pudding when we were not sick?
- And if not?
- It may mean that we are shaped so that it will require from each other too much, constantly question whether we did enough to deserve a rest, to praise, to love. To change this, you realize this mechanism, and decide that we will be better for you than our guardians of the previous custodians. That refuse to start when others will want us to do too much work. That we take into account their important needs, the needs of the spirit, and that we will wisely our body. That not all engage in what must be subordinated to a purpose: the possession, career, position, that we do things for themselves, for pleasure, satisfaction.
- We are pleased with what we usually do today, is probably shopping. My friends are buying clothes, electronics colleagues. And as they call it taking care of themselves. - Buying is a form of care. But if we can cause only a pleasure shopping, you probably have a child presents to us the presentation of the basic form of love. The parents apparently had no idea at the time or anything else. And if we show you care in childhood is probably the basic form of expressing love was nursing.
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